The Communication Cure The 5 Levels of Agreement by Lissa Rankin is a summary of a talk given by Dr. Neha Sangwan that I originally heard about visiting my friend Tori in Norman, Oklahoma. Tori explained it and gave me some information. I don't remember if we listened to a recording of the talk together or looked at a written document, but the information stuck with me. I looked up this article and reviewed it later. It was very helpful in figuring out why I was so frustrated even though I had talked about my ideas with many people, I had not yet reached the 5th level of agreement to gain partners in finding solutions.
The Dark Side of the Moon: Trauma Transformation and Facilitator Development by Corinna Bunger Baumgartner, 2011. This paper spoke to how my personal trauma recovery can improve my ability to lead. It explains the process of trauma recovery through the three phases of "Safety, Mourning, and Reconnection." I re-evaluated my experience at ELL to see in what ways it supported me through these phases and the parts that are missing that I need to work on more.
Group Works is a set of cards that was on the bookshelf at Emerging Leader Labs. It is a pattern language for bringing life to meetings and other gatherings created by the Group Pattern Language Project. I think that pattern languages are a wonderful way to bring structure to a group that finds the sweet spot of the minimum amount of structure to collaborate effectively. I am learning how to use it in a group, along with other tools like Gameshifting, hand gestures, etc.
A Path With Heart was a four week series of phone interviews From March 19th until April 4th 2013. Almost 1600 people registered for this free event from over 30 countries. The event was organized by Alan Seid, a certified Nonviolent Communication (NVC) trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication since 2003. Alan also has experience with Permaculture and has researched sustainable economics. The teleconference consisted of 18 interviews with world-renowned NVC trainers and consultants. Participants could call into Maestro Conference, listen, and ask questions. I called into all 18 interviews and asked questions several times.
I listened to the desire map audio recording and took notes on my own answers which I then copied into a google doc. I really liked the process which takes the listener through several rounds of questions to identify their core desired feelings. I took this one step farther to identify the underlying values and needs that make those feelings desirable. I can see some of the same reasoning and process used to identify the values of a company.
I first read Nonviolent Communication in 2005 and again a few months ago. Marshall Rosenberg lays out a language framework of stating objective observations, owned feelings, underlying needs, and clear and present requests. Underlying this is a consciousness of entering a conversation with the intention to understand where the other person is coming from and find mutually beneficial outcomes.
I discovered Principle-Centered Leadership in a free pile of books at Oklahoma City Community College in early 2013. I was blown away by the application of compassion to business leadership and the sage-like advice offered by Stephen Covey. If only Covey had realized that following his own advice to create a fully Principle-Centered organization would revolutionize the way organizations are structured at the most fundamental level.
This book gives some good guidelines for negotiating. I need to learn how to strongly stick to my values and stand up for my interests while being compassionate for those who disagree with me. Reading the book is a good start, but I need to drill it into my head and use it more often.
My friend Kara gave this book to me as a Christmas present. It had a lot of good tips on how to engage with people you don't know, which I have always had difficulty with. I think it has helped me to recognize what other people are needing in order to engage with me, rather than thinking about what I need from them.
Influencer was recommended by one of the speakers during the NVC and Social Change Telesummit. I ordered it immediately and was blown away by their breakdown of the most effective ways to change behavior. The 6 areas of influence are universally applicable and holistic in approach. The advice is amazing and the stories touched and inspired mme.
I found Speaking as a Leader at my local library and was drawn in by the promise to help me become a better orator and leader. It helped me learn good speaking skills and how to write a good motivational speech. It helped me write the outline for my presentation at Emerging Leader Labs.
I found Zen in the Art of Rhetoric in the closet of the room I am staying in at the Quaker Intentional Village Canaan. I knew that it was exactly what I needed to bring myself back into the metaphysical mindset of Persig, Bergson, and Deleuze. I needed a mental re-set so I could look at my ideas outside of a dualistic mindframe and hopefully find a way to express them that is compassionate and coherent.
I found Free Writing as an e-book on my father's computer. I wizzed through it in a couple of days, enwrapped by the helpful advice on how to write fast and creatively. I used it to write the rough draft of this output packet.